– Ronald M. Supancic, CFLSIt is easy to get caught up in the stress of day-to-day life, especially if you are going through an emotional time such as a divorce, a child custody battle, or the loss of a loved one. It is imperative to take time for yourself and practice self-care. For some, that might mean doing fifteen minutes of yoga in the morning, cooking yourself a nice meal, reading a chapter of your favorite book before bed, or even just taking three minutes to listen to your favorite song.
Whether or not you have children, it is important to take time for yourself. This is not selfish! It is not overindulgence! You cannot adequately take care of others if you are not taking care of yourself. It is not sustainable, as you will end up unhealthy (mind and/or body), imbalanced, and resentful.
While you are at work or taking care of your kids, you might find yourself getting overwhelmed. Mindfulness is a great tool to bring your awareness to the present, keep things in perspective, and refocus. This short exercise can be used anywhere, including during that stressful meeting, at the playground, or while dealing with high conflict personalities.
S-T-O-P
Stop what you are doing;
Take a few deep breaths (focus on the oxygen going in and out of your body);
Observe what is going on (what are you doing, thinking, feeling, etc.); and
Proceed with your day (with a more mindful sense of awareness).
Though we all know the old adage, “This too shall pass,” that often doesn’t provide much comfort in the moment when we are upset, stressed, or spread too thin. However, self-care, mindfulness, and similar coping skills will help you focus on the present, gain perspective, and release the negative energy that has been building so you can move forward to tackle the issue at hand.
Courtney M. Howard, Paralegal
The Law Collaborative, APC
Woodland Hills, CA 91367
T: 818-348-6700 F: 818-348-0961
