Twitter Facebook Myspace

Knowledge = Everything

If you were filing for a divorce thirty years ago, you didn’t have a whole lot of options. Certain laws favored mom, certain laws favored dad. You had to prove there was reasonable cause for the divorce and if the judge thought your reason wasn’t good enough, you didn’t get your divorce. Things worked a certain way and there wasn’t much you could do about it.

Today, we have lots of options. We can mediate or arbitrate, we can collaborate or litigate, we can Rent a Judge and get divorced at the Four Seasons or sit at our kitchen table and work it out over coffee and cookies. Unfortunately, most people have no idea there are so many options. Our legal system has been designed for battle, so we hire lawyers slick as knives and we cut each other until we are each bloodied and broken. But what is the point of that? How does that help? How do you heal from a wound cut so deep?

The fact is this: Divorce does not have to leave you bloodied and broken. You can have a divorce where you emerge on the other side with your eyes opened wide to the possibilities of new life. Where you come out standing with your shoulders back and your chin up. It’s up to you. You get to choose which divorce you have; the one with all the blood and gore, or the one where you come out standing straight and strong.

Read more…

News from The Law Collaborative

News from The Law Collaborative

Ron and Robert are pleased to announce that they will be presenting a workshop at the 2011 Orange County Mediation Conference along with Kathryn Dager, President of Profitivity Inc. Be sure to check out our Events page for more information.

Also, this Saturday is Breakfast with Ron and Robert: The Second Saturday Divorce Workshop. This month Irene Smith, CDFA will discuss important financial issues, and Dr. James Walton will discuss the emotional issues that arise during divorce.  You may not need this workshop, but someone you know does. Register by Friday, March 11 and get a 50% discount on the registration fee. Register online at TheLawCollaborative.com/SecondSaturday.htm or call our offices at (888)852-9961.

The Marriage Eulogy

By Ty Supancic, Esquire

There is an old saying, “History is written by the winners.” In litigation, there are winners and losers. We believe that when parties in crisis choose mediation over litigation, everyone has the potential to come out a winner. If the winners write history, why can’t the winners in a dissolution write their own history?

Fifty years after a divorce, the children and grandchildren of the original divorcing couple will tell and believe a story about why their parents and grandparents divorced, what kind of people they were, and what aftermath or legacy they left behind. A couple going through a dissolution has the opportunity to write what they would like that story to be. By writing that story, and by keeping that story in mind, they can guide their actions and decisions in such a way that the story can become a sort of self-fulfilling prophecy. Without having the story as a guideline, the parties are building without a plan, traveling without a map. They’ll build something and end up somewhere, but not with anything or anywhere they would have hoped.

The exercise of having individuals who are going through a dissolution of marriage write a “Joint Divorce Story” is not a new idea. Ron has been recommending it to his clients for years. Unfortunately, few ever take the time to engage in this useful exercise. Oftentimes they confuse the Joint Divorce Story with a mission statement or their short-term goals. The exercise might be more easily understood if it is renamed “The Marriage Eulogy”.

One of our paralegals, Maria, told me that when she was in high school, the nuns had them write their own eulogy as part of a “Death and Dying” class exercise. The idea was that by writing about all the great things they wanted to be remembered for when they died, one might be guided in making decisions during their lives. The Marriage Eulogy has the same goal.

Click here to read the rest of the article…

CONNECT WITH US

If you enjoyed this newsletter, you can join our newsletter list by clicking HERE.
Subscribe to our weekly iTunes podcast, Ron and Robert on Divorce
Be our friend on Facebook.com/TheLawCollaborative
Follow us on Twitter.com/TLC_Law Visit our website at TheLawCollaborative.com

Very truly yours,
Ron Supancic, CFLS and Robert Borsky, Esq.
Partners at The Law Collaborative, LLP

Someone you know needs this

Somebody you know, somebody you love is in the crisis of their life. They need to know the information that we offer in this workshop. Please forward this information to your friends, your family, or your professional colleagues who are in crisis this minute.

This Saturday, February 12, 2011, The Law Collaborative is hosting the Second Saturday Divorce Workshop at our office in Woodland Hills. Over breakfast and coffee, participants will hear from a veteran family law attorney, a financial expert, and a mental health professional. The setting is intimate, questions are answered, and concerns are addressed.

Register today and receive 50% off the registration fee. To register online visit TheLawCollaborative.com or email your name, contact information, and payment information to Info@TheLawCollaborative.com. To register over the phone, call us toll free at (888) 852-9961. For more information about the Second Saturday Divorce Workshop, visit RonandRobertonDivorce.com.

Best wishes,
Ron Supancic, CFLS and Robert Borsky, Esq.
Partners at The Law Collaborative, LLP

Visit our blog at RonandRobertonDivorce.com
Subscribe to Ron and Robert on Divorce on iTunes
Follow us at Twitter.com/TLC_Law
Be our friend at Facebook.com/TheLawCollaborative

Someone you know needs this workshop

Somebody you know, somebody you love is in the crisis of their life. They need to know the information that we offer in this workshop. Please share this information with your friends, your family, your professional colleagues who are in crisis this minute.

On the second Saturday of every month The Law Collaborative hosts a Divorce Workshop at our office in Woodland Hills. Over breakfast and coffee, participants hear from a veteran family law attorney, a financial expert, and a mental health professional. The setting is intimate, questions are answered, and concerns are addressed.

Register today and receive 50% off the registration fee. To register online visit TheLawCollaborative.com/SecondSaturday.htm or email your name, contact information, and payment information to Info@TheLawCollaborative.com. To register over the phone, call us toll free at (888) 852-9961.

Visit our website at TheLawCollaborative.com
Subscribe to Ron and Robert on Divorce on iTunes
Follow us at Twitter.com/TLC_Law
Be our friend at Facebook.com/TheLawCollaborative

50% off Second Saturday

On the second Saturday of every month The Law Collaborative hosts a Divorce Workshop at our office in Woodland Hills. Over breakfast and coffee, participants hear from a veteran family law attorney, a financial expert, and a mental health professional. The setting is intimate, questions are answered, and concerns are addressed. This Saturday, January 8, is our last workshop at the low rate of $50. Starting in February we are raising the registration fee. However, if you register in by 4:00 p.m. today, you will receive a 50% discount. That’s a $1200 value for $25. It’s our way of saying “thank you” for trusting us with your legal concerns.

Register today by calling our toll free number (888) 852-9961 or email info@thelawcollaborative.com.
For more information about the Second Saturday Divorce Workshop, visit RonandRobertonDivorce.com.

Best wishes for a Happy, Healthy New Year,
Ron Supancic and Robert Borsky,
Partners at The Law Collaborative, LLP

Visit our blog at RonandRobertonDivorce.com
Subscribe to Ron and Robert on Divorce on iTunes
Follow us at Twitter.com/TLC_Law
Be our friend at Facebook.com/TheLawCollaborative

50% off Second Saturday Divorce Workshop

On the second Saturday of every month The Law Collaborative hosts a Divorce Workshop at our office in Woodland Hills. Over breakfast and coffee, participants hear from a veteran family law attorney, a financial expert, and a mental health professional. The setting is intimate, questions are answered, and concerns are addressed. This Saturday, January 8, is our last workshop at the low rate of $50. Starting in February we are raising the registration fee. However, if you register in the next 24 hours you will receive a 50% discount. That’s a $1200 value for $25. It’s our way of saying “thank you” for trusting us with your legal concerns.

Register today by calling our toll free number (888)852-9961 or email info@thelawcollaborative.com.

Reasons to Love Second Saturday

Posted by A Serious Girl

When my husband and I moved from New York City to Los Angeles, we became involved in a dispute with our New York landlord over the terms of our lease and our security deposit. This dispute became the source of a tremendous amount of stress, lost sleep, and some very unpleasant digestive trouble. One of the reasons the dispute was so upsetting, both to our bellies and our brains, was because we didn’t know what our legal rights were. We felt like we were being cheated by a crooked landlord, but since we weren’t familiar with New York tenant/landlord law, we couldn’t be sure. Were we in the wrong? Was our credit going to be destroyed? Were we being swindled or were we being ignorant? We spent hours online looking for answers to our questions but what little  information we found was vague and inconsistent. We tried to find an affordable source of legal information, a website to visit or a human being to talk to, someone familiar with the law who could explain our rights, but there was nothing out there and no one willing to talk to us for less than a week’s pay.

During the height of the dispute with my landlord, I sat in on a Second Saturday Divorce Workshop and was completely blown away. What I would have given for a $50 seminar on tenant/landlord law! What I would have given for a chance to ask a legal professional what my rights were and what I could expect and what I needed to do to protect myself. Instead, paralyzed by a lack of information, my husband and I gave up. We settled on a check for half of our deposit and swallowed our frustration like a bitter pill. Fortunately, you don’t have to do that.

The Second Saturday Divorce Workshop is an excellent, affordable resource for people who are thinking about getting a divorce, or who are in the midst of a divorce. It’s an opportunity to spend four hours with three professionals whose careers are focused on helping people through the divorce process. You can show up to the workshop with a list of questions and leave with every one of them answered. You hear from a lawyer, a mental health professional, and a financial expert, all for the low cost of fifty dollars. Don’t let a lack of knowledge cost you the ability to make decisions that will protect you and your family. Take advantage of this opportunity to educate yourself. Find out what your legal rights are, what you can expect from California’s legal system, and how to protect yourself. Learn how to help your children deal with their reaction to your divorce, and how to manage your own emotions and expectations. Find out the best ways to protect your assets and minimize financial loss during divorce. Address your concerns and get your most pressing questions answered.

The final Second Saturday Workshop of 2010 is Saturday, December 11 from 8:30 a.m. to 1:00 p.m. and includes a light breakfast. To register now and get the early bird discount, call The Law Collaborative at (888) 852-9961 or email Info@TheLawCollaborative.com.

Second Saturday Divorce Workshop

The Second Saturday Divorce Workshop is a special event for people who are thinking about divorce or going through a divorce and want more information. Ron and Robert host the workshop at their Woodland Hills office on the second Saturday of every month as part of their continuing effort to provide people with education, information, and guidance. This workshop is a wonderful way for you to determine where you are in an existing case, what you can expect from the legal system, and how you can protect yourself. It’s an opportunity to talk with a divorce lawyer, a mental health professional, and a financial expert. You can ask questions and get honest answers. This four hour seminar is only $45 if you register in advance, or $50 at the door, and a light breakfast is included. To register today, call (888) 852-9961 or email Info@TheLawCollaborative.com.

Dr. Kathy Memel on Divorce (Part 1 of 4)

This week’s podcast features a live recording from the mental health portion of a recent Second Saturday Workshop. The speaker, Dr. Kathy Memel, is a therapist with a private practice in Beverly Hills. She works with individuals, couples, and families, and she provides a safe, caring, confidential environment. In addition to her work as a therapist, Dr. Memel has served as a family mediator at the Los Angeles Superior Conciliation Court for over twenty years. She also worked for five years as a family law paralegal, so she understands what people go through in a lawyer’s office. She’s also a wonderful person and a joy to be around.

In this segment of her presentation, Dr. Memel talks about how past family history plays a role in current family conflict.

Subscribe to Ron and Robert on Divorce on iTunes.
For more information, visit our website at TheLawCollaborative.com.

Second Saturday Coming Up!

The Second Saturday workshop was developed by WIFE, the Women’s Institute for Financial Education, founded in 1988. WIFE is dedicated to providing women with information and education during life transitions and their quest for financial independence.

The workshop is held the second Saturday of each month, and is designed to help people going through a divorce or thinking about a divorce take the next step in their life, no matter where they are in the process of divorce.  The workshop deals with the legal, financial, family, and personal issues of divorce in a logical, compassionate way. With the guidance of trained professionals, workshop participants gain greater understanding of what can otherwise be a very confusing process.

Second Saturday is a great opportunity for people anywhere in the divorce process. Our next Second Saturday workshop is scheduled for Saturday, September 11, from 8:30 a.m. to 1:00 p.m., and a delicious breakfast is included. The day’s speakers include Certified Family Law Specialist and co-founder of The Law Collaborative Ron Supancic, Certified Divorce Financial Analyst Irene Smith, and Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist and Divorce & Child Custody / Family Mediator Dr. Kathleen Memel. To register for the event, or if you’d like more information, email Info@TheLawCollaborative.com.