The third installment of Ron and Robert’s Step By Step Guide to Divorce is available for your listening enjoyment! If you missed part one, click here. If you missed part two, click here. If you want to subscribe to Ron & Robert’s weekly podcasts, click here!
Podcast #45 Now Live On iTunes (Step By Step Guide To Divorce, part II)
Our latest podcast is now live on iTunes, please click HERE to listen to podcast #45 (Step By Step Guide To Divorce, part II). Listen to Step By Step Guide to Divorce, part 1 HERE.
Step By Step Guide to Divorce, Part 1
Divorce is confusing enough, but when your ex’s lawyer is demanding a dizzying array of paperwork on top of everything else you’re dealing with, the actual legal divorce process can become incredibly overwhelming. In the next five podcasts, Ron and Robert will walk us through all of the necessary steps required in order to obtain a divorce in the state of California. This is an opportunity to find out what you’re supposed to file with your Response and why. What is an OSC and do you need to have one? How come you have to fill out an Income and Expense Declaration a second time?
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Lessons From A Veteran Trial Lawyer
In this podcast, Ron and Robert interview Steve Finston, a Certified Family Law Specialist. The three lawyers, Ron, Robert and Steve, with more then seventy years of experience between them, talk about all the recent changes to family law legislature, the crisis in the California courts, the closing of courtrooms and the layoff of court employees which is resulting in months and months of delays for couples involved in traditional litigated divorce. However, you have alternatives! Ron, Robert and Steve offer peaceful solutions which will keep your family out of court and your divorce as straightforward as possible. Click the play button below to hear what they have to say.
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And we all may bloom
This is A Serious Girl here, blogging on behalf of Ron & Robert. I’ve been listening to the podcasts with Dr. Lin Morel and I’ve got to say, she really is amazing. She holds a Masters in Applied Psychology, she’s a Certified Holistic Health Care Practitioner, a Doctor of Spiritual Science, author of Get clear, Get Connected, Get a Job: How to Make Your Job Search Easy, and a fifth degree black belt. She was also a victim of domestic violence. She married her childhood love, not knowing that he was mentally ill. As the years passed and his disease progressed, he became increasingly controlling, verbally abusive, and violent. Then one day in a fit of rage, he strangled her in front of their daughter. In her first interview with Ron and Robert on Divorce, Lin talks about her experience as a victim of domestic violence.
In the second interview, Lin talks about why she stayed with an abusive husband for as long as she did, and how she found the courage to leave. She talks about what she’d do differently if she had it to do again. She talks about grieving the loss of the man she fell in love with, and how she used art and journaling to express her pain and begin the healing process.
Lin experienced one of the most terrifying marital crises imaginable and yet she found the strength to take control of her life and save herself and her daughter. She is a cornucopia of insight and wisdom. In her third interview with Ron and Robert, Lin talks about the need for spiritual divorce, how to find help if you’re the victim of domestic violence, and how you can find your inner power and save yourself from a destructive relationship.
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Tools and Resources
Most people walk into marriage with very limited understanding of what California family law is all about. I keep a copy of the family code on my desk and I ask clients, do you have a premarital agreement? Most of the time people say no, they didn’t want to bother with that, they thought it was off-putting. What people don’t realize is that California has written a premarital agreement for you and it’s more than eight hundred pages long. If you haven’t read it, you’re in for a big surprise.
Listen to the newest podcast from Ron and Robert on Divorce — if you have questions, they have answers.
Creating a Dialogue
Over the years we’ve had many many people tell us that divorce is worse than death. And in some ways it is a death. It’s the death of an identity.
When people come together in a marriage, they create a third entity. He’s not who he was anymore, he now becomes what she adds to him. She’s no longer who she was, separate and apart from him, she becomes who she is with him. The two of them create this third relationship, and the success of the marriage, the longevity of the marriage, the durability of the marriage is a direct function of the amount of time that people put into cultivating, creating, adding to and enlarging that third entity. When that entity dies, when it is destroyed, when it is broken through a breach of trust or a horrible misadventure, it’s devastating. It’s devastating to the person who has put their everything into the relationship and it’s devastating to the children.
There is a legal divorce and there is an emotional divorce. The key is to understand that what you’re going through is different than what the legal process is. But you have to understand the legal process to be able to get through it. The purpose of this blog, and of the Ron and Robert on Divorce Podcast, is to provide tools, education and information to people who are going through the crisis of a divorce.
How do you know if you need a lawyer? What are the proper forms to file to get a divorce started? Can you do it yourself? How much does it cost? What are the rules for fair fighting? What if your spouse is hiding money? What about the kids? What is collaborative law? Do you have to go to court? We’ve answered all these questions on our blog and in our podcasts, and now we want to start a dialogue with you – what do you want to know? What are your questions? Send us an email and we will answer your questions on our radio show or on our blog. We won’t use your name, your identity will be protected, but it’s important to know that there are remedies, there are solutions, there are steps you can take, precise protocols you can follow to make your entire divorce easier. You are not at the mercy of the California Divorce Industry. You can take this opportunity to empower yourself. Write to:
Ron@TheLawCollaborative.com
Robert@TheLawCollaborative.com
Please keep in mind that we cannot give legal advice without a signed Retainer Agreement, but it is our mission to provide information, education, knowledge and support. Thank you for allowing us to be of service.
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When we follow our inner wisdom
Lin Morel was seventeen when she met the man who would become her husband. He was her childhood sweetheart, and they married when she was just twenty. But their marriage did not have the happy ending we hope for. What started as a fourteen year romance became a nightmare when Lin’s husband flew into a rage and strangled her in front of her daughter. The marriage ended, but the emotional violence did not, and their child became a pawn in an abusive relationship.
Today Lin holds a Masters of Applied Psychology, she is a Holistic Healthcare Practitioner, a Doctor of Spiritual science and author of Get Clear, Get Connected, Get a Job. She is also a fifth degree black belt and president of AWBW.org, a non-profit that works to help end the cycle of domestic violence. Dr. Morel is living proof that when we follow our inner wisdom, life unfolds in an incredible way.
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For Better Or For Worse
We’ve all heard the expression about “marriage for better or for worse,” but I don’t think most people have heard the expression “divorce for better or for worse”. The reality is relationships never end. Relationships are forever. Relationships only change over time and they either get better, or they get worse, depending on the choices we make.
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From Heartbreak to Happiness
“Resentment is like swallowing poison and waiting for the other person to die.” — Aurora Winter
Aurora Winter, founder of the Grief Coach Academy and writer of the profound book From Heartbreak to Happiness, talks about how to survive a crisis such as divorce.
