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The Second Saturday workshop was developed by WIFE, the Women’s Institute for Financial Education, founded in 1988. WIFE is dedicated to providing women with information and education during life transitions and their quest for financial independence.

The workshop is held the second Saturday of each month, and is designed to help people going through a divorce or thinking about a divorce take the next step in their life, no matter where they are in the process of divorce.  The workshop deals with the legal, financial, family, and personal issues of divorce in a logical, compassionate way. With the guidance of trained professionals, workshop participants gain greater understanding of what can otherwise be a very confusing process.

Second Saturday is a great opportunity for people anywhere in the divorce process. Our next Second Saturday workshop is scheduled for Saturday, September 11, from 8:30 a.m. to 1:00 p.m., and a delicious breakfast is included. The day’s speakers include Certified Family Law Specialist and co-founder of The Law Collaborative Ron Supancic, Certified Divorce Financial Analyst Irene Smith, and Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist and Divorce & Child Custody / Family Mediator Dr. Kathleen Memel. To register for the event, or if you’d like more information, email Info@TheLawCollaborative.com.

Knowledge is Everything

If you were filing for a divorce thirty years ago, you didn’t have a whole lot of options. Certain laws favored mom, certain laws favored dad. You had to prove there was reasonable cause for the divorce and if the judge thought your reason wasn’t good enough, you didn’t get your divorce. Things worked a certain way and there wasn’t much you could do about it.

Today, we have lots of options. We can mediate or arbitrate, we can collaborate or litigate, we can rent a judge and get divorced at the four seasons or sit at our kitchen table and work it out over coffee and donuts. Unfortunately, most people have no idea there are so many options. Our legal system has been designed for battle, so we hire lawyers slick as knives and we cut each other until we are each bloodied and broken. But what is the point of that? How does that help? How do you heal from a wound cut so deep?

The fact is this: Divorce does not have to leave you bloodied and broken. You can have a divorce where you emerge on the other side with your eyes opened wide to the possibilities of new life. Where you come out standing with your shoulders back and your chin up. It’s up to you. You get to choose which divorce you have; the one with all the blood and gore, or the one where you come out standing straight and strong.

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Mark Your Calendars!

We are happy to be hosting our monthly Second Saturday Workshop on Saturday, August 14, 2010 at our Woodland Hills office.  Attorney Robert Borsky will discuss the steps to divorce from beginning to end, what to expect in the way of necessary and reasonable fees, how to protect yourself in court, and the in’s and out’s of child custody and child/spousal support.  A Certified Financial Analyst* will address the financial issues of divorce and a mental health professional** will be on hand to discuss communication and parenting issues that so often come up for divorcing parents.

Pre-registration for the workshop is $45, or $50 at the door. Breakfast and coffee will be served.  Call our toll free number to register, or visit our website for more information:

(888) 852-9961

www.TheLawCollaborative.com

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*Speaker will be announced at a later date

**Speaker will be announced at a later date

How much support can I get?

Part Two of the discussion launched in last month’s newsletter, the calculation of parental Child Custody time, begins with an important first step: determine the average weekly time that your child spends in your care. Use the information from last month to calculate the specific hours. There are 168 hours in each week, 7 days at 24 hours each. There are 52 weeks in each year. 168 x 52 = 8736. Next, add holidays, and those Mondays or Fridays that extend your weeks or weekends (such as Memorial Day). Then calculate vacation time, birthdays, and special days like Mother’s Day or Father’s Day.  Don’t forget to account for school closure days and other such events. Total these figures and you should have an accurate estimation of your time/custody percentage. Be certain of your numbers, since miscalculation may cost you additional negotiation, litigation and/or child support payments. If in doubt, review the calculations with your attorney or the paralegal in charge of your case.

Summer is officially here, and with it our next Second Saturday Divorce Workshop, which will take place on July 10th at our Woodland Hills Office. California Certified Family Law Specialist, Ronald Supancic, of The Law Collaborative, will address the legal issues in divorce. Irene Smith, Certified Divorce Financial Analyst, will discuss the financial issues associated with divorce. Christine Campisi, Court Mediator, will speak regarding childrens issues in divorce situations. This workshop is beneficial to anyone contemplating divorce, or curious about their options. Pre-registration is $45, or $50 at the door. Breakfast will be served. Please call our office at (888) 852-9961, for registration and additional information, or email IG@TheLawCollaborative.com.

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This Saturday!

Register now for this Saturday’s Second Saturday Divorce Workshop at The Law Collaborative!  Attorney Ron Supancic is speaking alongside Certified Divorce Financial Analyst Irene Smith and Family Law Court Mediator Christine Campisi. Advance registration is $45 or pay $50 at the door. Breakfast is included. Email IG@TheLawCollaborative.com or call our toll free number to register. (888) TLC (852)-9961

Save the Date!

We are very excited to be hosting our third Second Saturday Divorce Workshop for Women on Saturday, July 10.  Attorney Ron Supancic will be presenting alongside CDFA Irene Smith and court mediator Christine Campisi, who will be discussing issues that face children during divorce.  The workshop is from 8:30 a.m. to 1:00 p.m. and a beautiful breakfast is included!  Pre-register by emailing IG@TheLawCollaborative.com.

When it is your choice

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Continued from yesterday…

What followed was a trip by Bill and Mary to see a lawyer who helped them draw up a divorce settlement along the lines that Mary wanted.  The whole thing was accomplished for a few hundred dollars, and Bill moved out of the house to live with his parents.

In the months that followed, Bill’s anger finally erupted.  He secured a lawyer and pushed a long, bitter, and futile suit for custody of his children.  In the end, he emerged with a considerable debt to his lawyer and nothing more to show for his trouble — except for one thing.  The pain had taught him to see himself fmore clearly.

Bill began to recognize that Mary’s discontent had rested on his steadfast unwillingness to take responsibility in their family life.  Slowly, and with the help of counseling, he began to make some choices that said, “I am going to take responsibility for my life.  I have tried to lay the blame for my failures at the feet of others.  But I choose to do that no longer.”

Bill’s divorce, the thing he had feared the most, had been, in the end, the costly crisis that had broken him free from self-defeating behavior that had persisted unexamined throughout his married life.  It took several years, but before it was over, he had taken custody of his children with the consent of their mother.  Being a single parent gave him the opportunity he needed to put some muscle in his resolves to take responsibility for himself and those he had been given to care for.  Before two more years had passed, he met a woman who was willing to share his life.  They were married and moved ahead into the unfamiliar waters of step-parenting and rebuilding a full-fledged family.  As of this writing they are moving on course, thanks largely, in my opinion, to Bill’s willingness to break with his old patterns of indecisiveness.

One way Bill exhibited his unwillingness to take responsibility for himself and his marriage was the acquiescent way he tagged along to see the same lawyer his wife had selected.  He would have been wiser to find a lawyer for himself, an advocate to represent his interests.  Instead he followed a policy of appeasement.  Not uncommonly I have observed a tendency among some people to confuse appeasement with willingness to change.

The reason Bill proceeded imprudently through his divorce was that he violated a cardinal rule it has taken me years to learn:  In order to derive any benefit from a divorce, you must separate the emotional divorce from the legal divorce.

Making that separation is a big order, but it is vital.  Gale — the young woman who was married to Jack the drug dealer — was able to do it.  She used her head and took an important setp to protect herself.  Hers was a temporary divorce, if you will, that resulted not in the dissolution of her marriage but in the resolution of her problem.

It is absolutely necessary that we acknowledge the role we play in our own lives, that we take responsibility for how our actions affect the situations we find ourselves in.  Divorce has the ability to make us feel as if the wind has been knocked out of our sails, as if we are drowning and out of control, as if we are victims to whom terrible things happen.  But that doesn’t have to be true.

Divorce can be an opportunity to change your life for the better. It is up to us to take control of our future and our happiness.  This Saturday we are hosting The Law Collaborative’s Second Saturday Divorce Workshop for Women.  Attorney Robert Borsky, CDFA Irene Smith and LMFT Rosalinda O’Neill will speak on the various financial, emotional and legal issues that surround divorce.  The workshop begins at 8:30 a.m. and ends at 1 p.m., pre-registration is $45 or it’s $50 at the door.  This is an opportunity to empower yourself, educate yourself, learn about your rights, and learn how to protect yourself in court.

If you’d like to pre-register, email IG@thelawcollaborative.com or call our toll free number now: (888) TLC (852) – 9961.

Save the Date…

The Second Saturday Divorce Workshop for Women is an excellent way for women who are contemplating divorce or who are in the process of divorce to take control of their lives, learn about their rights, and protect themselves in court.  Speaking at the event will be attorney Robert Borsky, Certified Divorce Financial Analyst Irene Smith and licensed marriage and family therapist Rosalinda O’Neill.

About Robert Borsky
Robert Borsky has been practicing law since 1981. He limited his practice to Family Law from 1984 through 2001, taking occasional special cases referred by Judges. During this time, he spent four years on the exclusive Gang Intervention Task Force, representing juveniles. From 2001 to 2006, Robert also practiced insurance defense and Workers’ Compensation Law while maintaining his family law practice. Robert Borsky has served as a mediator, arbitrator and Judge pro tem for the Los Angeles Superior Court since 1986. He is a member of the Los Angeles, Beverly Hills, and San Fernando Valley Bar Associations. Robert served as President of the Long Beach Bar Association, Family Law Section, 1994-1995 session, and is a past Co-Chair of the California State Child Custody Committee. As an advisor to the Superior Court, he received the first ‘Judge William McFadden Award,’ for his contribution in assembling the first Master List of qualified Child Custody Evaluators, Protocols and Evaluator Retainers. Robert taught college level courses at USC Law School from 1990 to 1998, and has been a guest speaker at State Bar functions, and local County and City functions. Robert has spoken frequently on local radio stations, and has written numerous articles for the bench and bar. Click here to read more about Robert Borsky.

About Irene Smith
Irene Smith holds the designations of Certified Divorce Financial Analyst™, Certified Financial Planner® and Certified Public Accountant. Irene obtained her Bachelor of Science degree in Accounting from California State University, Northridge and her MBA degree in Finance from the Wharton School at the University of Pennsylvania. Before starting her financial planning practice in 2001, Irene had an extensive corporate career and developed expertise in the fields of taxation, finance and real estate. After experiencing the impact divorces had on the lives of her family and friends, she decided to obtain additional training as a Certified Divorce Financial Analyst (CDFA) to help divorcing individuals make better informed financial decisions. As a CDFA, Irene analyzes the financial issues of a divorce and informs clients about the long-term effect of financial decisions made today. She can help clients avoid the common pitfalls of divorce by evaluating the tax implications of dividing property and the financial impact of various settlement options.  Click here to read more about Irene Smith.

About Rosalinda O’Neill
Rosalinda O”Neill holds a bachelor’s degree in finance from the University of Miami and a master’s in counseling psychology from Loyola Marymount University in Los Angeles. She is a California Licensed Marriage Family Therapist with expertise in addiction, conflict resolution, partner dynamics, relationship, trauma and achieving success. Rosalinda has over 30 years of high level corporate experience. Rosalinda is President and founder of CEO LifeMentor®, Inc since 1984. She is a member of the Physicians’ Diversion Evaluation Committee of the Medical Board of California. Her non-profit leadership involvement includes Rotary International and Rotary Club of Beverly Hills, City of Hope Board of Governors and the American Heart Association, Ventura Division.  Click here to read more about Rosalinda O’Neill.

What women need to know about divorce

The Second Saturday workshop was developed by WIFE, the Women’s Institute for Financial Education, founded in 1988. It is their mission is to empower women to succeed and prosper.  WIFE is dedicated to providing women with information and education during life transitions and their quest for financial independence.

The Second Saturday Workshop is held the second Saturday of each month, and is designed to help divorced and divorcing women take the next step in their life, no matter where they are in the process of untying the knot.  The workshop deals with the legal, financial, family and personal issues of divorce in a logical, yet compassionate way.  With the guidance of trained professionals, workshop participants gain greater understanding of the confusing divorce process.

Second Saturday is a great opportunity for women anywhere in the divorce process. The next Second Saturday workshop is scheduled for Saturday, June 12, from 8:30 a.m. to 1:00 p.m.  Speakers will include attorney Robert Borsky, Certified Divorce Financial Analyst Irene Smith and marriage and family therapist Rosalinda O’Neill.  To register for the event, or if you’d like more information, email Info@TheLawCollaborative.com.