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How To Have A Better Divorce

Here are some tips and suggestions to help make the process of divorce a little bit easier. If you follow these suggestions, you will save yourself a lot of potential frustration down the road.

1. Always take your file with you everywhere.

2. Keep a journal. Write down every significant event, conversation, discussion and action of your spouse at the time it occurs.

3. Keep a ledger. Write down every financial aspect of your case to assure a complete, accurate, and legible record of all the financial aspects of your case.

4. Memorialize every agreement with every person who is interested/involved in your case. Keep/send copies.

5. Meet with your attorney in person to design strategies for your case. Explore consensual dispute resolution; confirm everything in writing.

6. Know your strategy; do not deviate without advice and counsel.

7. Participate in the preparation of your case; draft, document, investigate, gather information and pre-interview all witnesses.

8. Let your attorney know when s/he is on track or off.

9. Schedule regular spit and grouse sessions with your attorney. DO NOT let resentments accumulate.

10. Keep your account current at all times and offer security if you fall behind.

Second Saturday = Self-Empowerment

Just a quick reminder that our next Second Saturday Divorce Workshop is this Saturday, May 14 at our new office in Woodland Hills.  Register before 4 p.m. Friday, May 13 and save 50% on the registration fee. Register today by calling (888) 852-9961 or register online at TheLawCollaborative.com.

Trendsetter Justice Sheila Sonenshine on Family Law (Part 2 of 4)

This week Judge Sonenshine discusses the lessons she’s learned about family dynamics during her years as a family law attorney, how she became a judge, why she loves settling cases, what’s the best advice she can give to an attorney, and what’s the best advice she can give a person testifying in court. (Podcast #54, Part 2 of 4)

Missed Judge Sonenshine’s interview last week? Click here to listen now.

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How much support can I get?

Part Two of the discussion launched in last month’s newsletter, the calculation of parental Child Custody time, begins with an important first step: determine the average weekly time that your child spends in your care. Use the information from last month to calculate the specific hours. There are 168 hours in each week, 7 days at 24 hours each. There are 52 weeks in each year. 168 x 52 = 8736. Next, add holidays, and those Mondays or Fridays that extend your weeks or weekends (such as Memorial Day). Then calculate vacation time, birthdays, and special days like Mother’s Day or Father’s Day.  Don’t forget to account for school closure days and other such events. Total these figures and you should have an accurate estimation of your time/custody percentage. Be certain of your numbers, since miscalculation may cost you additional negotiation, litigation and/or child support payments. If in doubt, review the calculations with your attorney or the paralegal in charge of your case.

Summer is officially here, and with it our next Second Saturday Divorce Workshop, which will take place on July 10th at our Woodland Hills Office. California Certified Family Law Specialist, Ronald Supancic, of The Law Collaborative, will address the legal issues in divorce. Irene Smith, Certified Divorce Financial Analyst, will discuss the financial issues associated with divorce. Christine Campisi, Court Mediator, will speak regarding childrens issues in divorce situations. This workshop is beneficial to anyone contemplating divorce, or curious about their options. Pre-registration is $45, or $50 at the door. Breakfast will be served. Please call our office at (888) 852-9961, for registration and additional information, or email IG@TheLawCollaborative.com.

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Save the Date…

The Second Saturday Divorce Workshop for Women is an excellent way for women who are contemplating divorce or who are in the process of divorce to take control of their lives, learn about their rights, and protect themselves in court.  Speaking at the event will be attorney Robert Borsky, Certified Divorce Financial Analyst Irene Smith and licensed marriage and family therapist Rosalinda O’Neill.

About Robert Borsky
Robert Borsky has been practicing law since 1981. He limited his practice to Family Law from 1984 through 2001, taking occasional special cases referred by Judges. During this time, he spent four years on the exclusive Gang Intervention Task Force, representing juveniles. From 2001 to 2006, Robert also practiced insurance defense and Workers’ Compensation Law while maintaining his family law practice. Robert Borsky has served as a mediator, arbitrator and Judge pro tem for the Los Angeles Superior Court since 1986. He is a member of the Los Angeles, Beverly Hills, and San Fernando Valley Bar Associations. Robert served as President of the Long Beach Bar Association, Family Law Section, 1994-1995 session, and is a past Co-Chair of the California State Child Custody Committee. As an advisor to the Superior Court, he received the first ‘Judge William McFadden Award,’ for his contribution in assembling the first Master List of qualified Child Custody Evaluators, Protocols and Evaluator Retainers. Robert taught college level courses at USC Law School from 1990 to 1998, and has been a guest speaker at State Bar functions, and local County and City functions. Robert has spoken frequently on local radio stations, and has written numerous articles for the bench and bar. Click here to read more about Robert Borsky.

About Irene Smith
Irene Smith holds the designations of Certified Divorce Financial Analyst™, Certified Financial Planner® and Certified Public Accountant. Irene obtained her Bachelor of Science degree in Accounting from California State University, Northridge and her MBA degree in Finance from the Wharton School at the University of Pennsylvania. Before starting her financial planning practice in 2001, Irene had an extensive corporate career and developed expertise in the fields of taxation, finance and real estate. After experiencing the impact divorces had on the lives of her family and friends, she decided to obtain additional training as a Certified Divorce Financial Analyst (CDFA) to help divorcing individuals make better informed financial decisions. As a CDFA, Irene analyzes the financial issues of a divorce and informs clients about the long-term effect of financial decisions made today. She can help clients avoid the common pitfalls of divorce by evaluating the tax implications of dividing property and the financial impact of various settlement options.  Click here to read more about Irene Smith.

About Rosalinda O’Neill
Rosalinda O”Neill holds a bachelor’s degree in finance from the University of Miami and a master’s in counseling psychology from Loyola Marymount University in Los Angeles. She is a California Licensed Marriage Family Therapist with expertise in addiction, conflict resolution, partner dynamics, relationship, trauma and achieving success. Rosalinda has over 30 years of high level corporate experience. Rosalinda is President and founder of CEO LifeMentor®, Inc since 1984. She is a member of the Physicians’ Diversion Evaluation Committee of the Medical Board of California. Her non-profit leadership involvement includes Rotary International and Rotary Club of Beverly Hills, City of Hope Board of Governors and the American Heart Association, Ventura Division.  Click here to read more about Rosalinda O’Neill.

The Real Cost of Ending a Marriage

“It takes two or three years to process the emotional agenda (of divorce) and lawyers who aren’t trained in this, that don’t understand this, are adding gasoline to the fire when they align with the emotional agendas of their clients. A lot of transference and counter-transference takes place. The lawyers bring their own personal agendas to the case…

What we’re learning now is that divorce is really a mental health issue, more than it is anything else. If we can bring mental health professionals into the equation early on, we can make a huge difference in terms of saving time, saving money and more importantly, protecting children.”

— Ron Supancic, as interviewed by Karyn Foley during a 2007 Calabasas Author’s Night.

Calabasas Author’s Night – The Real Cost of Ending a Marriage from The Law Collaborative on Vimeo.

About Ron Supancic

Ronald M. Supancic has been a Family Law attorney since 1970. Ron was admitted to the Supreme Court of the United States on October 15, 1975. He has been certified by the California Bar Association Board of Legal Specialization as a Family Law Specialist since the inception of that certification program in 1980. Ron has handled hundreds of contested dissolutions, child custody cases, and disputed post-marital proceedings. He has served as a Mediator and as a Judge Pro Tem with the Los Angeles County Superior Court since 1976. Ron holds an AV rating with the Martindale Hubbell Law Register. The ‘A’ signifies the highest level of legal ability, while the ‘V’ denotes ‘very high’ adherence to the professional standards of conduct, ethics, reliability and diligence. Ron is regularly voted one of L.A.’s Super Lawyers by a jury of his peers in Los Angeles Magazine. At a special ceremony held this September, Ron was honored by the California State Bar for 30 years of service as a Certified Family Law Specialist.

In addition to having taught Family Law at the University of Southern California School of Law, Ron is a frequent presenter at the California Bar Convention, and various other professional associations. In the last six months Ron gave a workshop on Unbundled Legal Services to the California State Bar, he presented twice at the Mediator’s Beyond Borders conference in Italy, he taught a workshop at the 2011 Orange County Mediation Conference along with partner Robert Borsky, and he presented The Law Collaborative’s unique Employee Assistance Professionals Divorce Tool Kit to the San Fernando Valley chapter of the Employee Assistance Professionals Association to rave reviews.