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Healers of Conflict

At the annual convention of the American Bar Association in 1984, Chief Justice Warren Burger said:

“The entire legal profession: lawyers, judges, and law professors, has become so mesmerized with the stimulation of the courtroom contest, that we tend to forget that we ought to be healers of conflict.  For many claims, trial by adversarial contest must in time go the way of the ancient trial by battle and blood… Our system has become too costly, too painful, too destructive, too inefficient for truly civilized people.”

Alex Baldwin wrote a book called A Promise to Ourselves in which he decries the California “divorce industry”. It is no secret that the courts are in crisis. If you try to have a traditional divorce today, it will likely take you twice as long as it would have five years ago, simply because budget cuts have reduced court resources to nearly zero. For years Ron and Robert have envisioned a way to transform the business of law. Last year they teamed up with Kathryn Dager, an organizational expert, to help develop the process.  The current system may be in crisis, but now we have a solution.

The Center for Collaborative Learning (CCL) is The Law Collaborative’s brand-new educational division, designed to empower legal professionals to be what they truly are: Healers of conflict. CCL aims to change the way law is practiced; to turn what has traditionally been an adversarial system into a system that heals, helps, nurtures, and thrives.

The world is changing. Every second of every day new advances are being made in medicine, technology, architecture, security, agriculture, education, the list is endless. Collaborative Law is the newest and fastest growing method of alternative dispute resolution and it is revolutionizing the way law is practiced. Whether you are a lawyer, Certified Divorce Financial Analyst, divorce coach, child custody mediator, psychotherapist, or judge, CCL is committed to providing the tools, skills, and support necessary to help change the face of America’s legal industry. Together we can create a community of professionals who are committed to healing conflict.

This November 12, 13, and 14th we are proud to introduce The New Model for The Business of Law, a three-day workshop that will give participants the skills, strategies, and structures to create a thriving collaborative legal practice. Last month we gave some of our esteemed colleagues a sneak peak at what we have to offer, and here is what they had to say:

“It’s really exciting to be a part of this revolutionary business model and the idea of having a more peaceful way to practice law.” Christine Campisi, Child Custody Mediator

“The most beneficial thing for me was really understanding how people process information and how powerful the exercises were in getting to resolutions and ideas.” Byron Lane, Estate Planning Attorney

“Collaborative Law really does look to be the future. The old system, as it works now, everyone knows it’s broken. It’s not a perfect world. It needs to be pushed forward into the next decade.” Jesus Silva, Family Law Practitioner

“We have an opportunity to get trained to practice collaboratively. Then they give you all the structures, all the tools, all the tricks of the trade that they’ve built for so many years to be successful. They provide that for you. These are leaders, successful practitioners, and they are compassionate. One out of five lawyers suffer from drug, alcoholism, or stress related issues. But if you are practicing collaboratively you can take the compassion you learn into your home and into your life. It’s incredible.” Michelle Daneshrad, Esq.

If you’re a legal professional and would like more information, visit, where you can watch video testimonials, view our online brochure, and register to attend.

Center for Collaborative Learning – We hold the key to a massive paradigm shift.

The Seven Options for Divorce: Number Seven

Alec Baldwin wrote a book last year called A Promise To Ourselves, decrying “the corrupt California divorce industry” (his words).  He describes a nightmare divorce that lasted eight years and cost over three million dollars, after a ten-year marriage to Kim Basinger.   That is the seventh option:  Litigation.

A few years ago there was a case all over the newspapers.  A short marriage; a two-year-old child.  Dad was voluntarily giving Mom $50,000 a month in child support, but the mother wasn’t satisfied.  Mother wanted $350,000 a month in child support for the two-year-old.  Why?  Because Dad could afford it.

The couple spent over a million dollars – each – on the Order to Show Cause Hearing.  At the end of the day, after hearing all of the evidence and testimony, after concord jets and race horses and all the other evidence put in for a two-year-old child, the judge raised the support from $50,000 a month to $60,000 a month.   A hundred thousand for a million.  That’s litigation, straight up, all the way.

The good news is that you have options.  You don’t have to spend your life’s savings on legal fees or spend years fighting in court.  It’s your money, it’s your family, it’s your choice.

Option 1:  The Kitchen Table
Option 2:  Mediation
Option 3:  Collaborative Divorce
Option 4:  Arbitration
Option 5:  Negotiation in the Shadow of Litigation
Option 6:  Rent-A-Judge
Option 7: Litigation

A Promise To Ourselves

A Promise To Ourselves” by Alec Baldwin, a celebrity divorce client who spent more than 3 Million dollars over an eight year period after a 10 year marriage.  He says, “Divorce is now a 28 Billion dollar industry in the United States….When choosing a lawyer, ask them their strategy before you sign any document or pay any retainer. If the first words out of their mouth are not about mediation, don’t hire them….You want to do everything you can to avoid going to court….If your lawyer steers you away from mediation, get rid of them.”