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Making Divorce Work

In Diana Mercer’s new book, Making Divorce Work: Eight essential keys for resolving conflict and rebuilding your life, the author discusses the benefits of designing a “divorce mission statement”.  She points out that a divorce mission statement is a compass one can use to guide oneself away from conflict and toward peace.  She reminds us that there is a huge distinction between what’s important and what’s urgent.  We are often drawn to the next most urgent thing, when in reality it’s the most important thing that we should be focusing on.  A divorce mission statement allows you to focus on designing the behavior that will help you to achieve consequences congruent with your long term objectives.

Ms. Mercer also points out different ideas that might be considered useful, such as: I was kind and honest throughout the entire process.  My children had two supportive parents committed to co-parenting and we did not have to go to court to resolve our differences.

She adds a checklist for statements that are realized such as: I will ask advice from people who are positive influences.  I will put my child’s interests above my own.  I will take care of myself physically and emotionally.  I will forgive myself and my spouse for the divorce.

I thought this was a great read and I recommend it highly.  For more information you can click here to visit Diana Mercer’s personal blog, or click here to visit her mediation blog.

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