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Healing from a Broken Heart

Dr. James Walton will be the guest speaker at this weekend’s Second Saturday Divorce workshop. For more information, or to register for the workshop and save 50% off your registration fee, visit TheLawCollaborative.com/SecondSaturday.htm

HEALING FROM A BROKEN HEART
By Dr. James E. Walton

If you have recently gone through a break up, acknowledge that you are going through a crisis and become more compassionate and gentle with yourself. Remove any blame you may be putting on yourself for anything you may or may not have done or for trusting another or having been vulnerable. It’s important to know that we are able to trust and experience vulnerability. Those are important parts of being in a relationship.

Talk about your hurt with people who are willing to listen. You might even want to seek out a licensed therapist to help you through this time. It’s important to let yourself know that you can and will make it through this experience.

Stick to your daily routines. Continue to eat, sleep and exercise at the same times you always have. If you don’t exercise, now could be a good time to start. Always consult with your doctor first before starting any exercise routine. Exercise causes our bodies to release endorphins that serve to help us feel better.

Don’t seek revenge. It’s OK to fantasize about it, but it’s not OK to act it out. Angry behavior only leads to amping up the drive to act out more angry behavior. Don’t do it.

Don’t follow, spy on, or call the other person. This can keep you attached in very unhealthy ways and make it more difficult to heal your hurt and angry feelings. Resist the urge to try to make them understand your hurt feelings, or try to get them to see your point of view. This will only lead to more frustration and feelings of betrayal. Of course, don’t harm yourself. Doing so never gets them to come back.

Dr. James E. Walton, Ph.D. is a licensed Marriage & Family Therapist with a private practice in Sherman Oaks. Log onto his website at LAtherapist.com or call 818-753-4865.


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